Finding Balance and Happiness-Part 2
(To catch up on part one read this post on Berry Quinoa Salad)
Oh Brazil, you may have sold me on hamburgers forever. And that’s a hard thing to do as many burgers are, in my opinion, dry and flavorless. But this burger, oh my gosh! All these years my husband has been telling me that the Brazilian’s have got this whole burger thing down and they add an egg. I wasn’t sure about the Brazilian Burger with egg, but I’m sold on it and I’m sure I can sell you on it too.
The First Step in a Happy Marriage
We kind of started talking about marriage, family, balance etc on this Berry Quinoa post, but I’m ready to hop back into it already. I think we should start with marriage because anything you practice to have a good relationship with your spouse also counts with family, friendships etc.
I recently taught a class on marriage and the lesson suggested 5 essential elements for a successful, happy marriage. The first was, viewing your marriage as priceless.
Q: How do you view your marriage as priceless? Or in other words what actions show that you are viewing your marriage/family etc as most precious?
I love this quote by James E. Faust, “It is far more difficult to be of one heart and mind than to be physically one. This unity of heart and mind is manifest in sincere expressions of ‘I appreciate you’ and ‘I am proud of you’. Such domestic harmony results from forgiving and forgetting, essential elements of a maturing marriage relationship. Someone has said that we should keep our eyes wide open before marriage and half shut afterward. True charity ought to begin in marriage, for it is a relationship that must be rebuilt every day.”
For me it’s a constant effort. I choose to slow down in conversations and listen instead of thinking what to say next or fighting. I’m not perfect but it shows those I love that I genuinely think they are worth listening to. I am quick to give love and adoration. Compliments, love, attention, special notes and texts, caring for our home, making special meals or treats, and honestly trying to be there and care for people like I would in a new relationship are how I try to view my marriage as priceless. Nothing gets in the way. I’d rather be home than out at girls’ night. I set up dates and let myself get excited to be together just like I would have when we first started dating.
Q: What examples have you had that taught you about caring for a marriage or relationship and that it takes work?
My parents, which is probably a typical answer, but they have always been so aware of each other and growing up my parents never had anything negative to say about one another. This quote by Jeffrey R. Holland is such a good one to remember, “Think the best of each other, especially those you say you love. Assume the good and doubt the bad.”
It becomes far too easy to forget that you were so excited when you met this person and truly loved being around them and would never want to hurt them. In fact many people even in rough relationships would still defend the other person if another was being harsh to them, but we forget to assume the good and doubt the bad. I cannot stand husband bashing. It happens so often and I don’t believe in it. In fact, I think we believe what we say. If you start talking bad about someone eventually it changes how you see them entirely, which isn’t fair or right. Say good things about those that you love.
Brazilian Burger with Egg
- ½ pound 75% lean ground beef (it makes a better burger)
- ½ Pound Ground Chorizo* see note
- Avocado, sliced*optional
- 6 Eggs, cooked over easy
- Cheese, sliced
- Gently mix the beef and chorizo together. Overmixing will create a tough burger. Pat out into patties, making an indentation in the center of each burger to promote even cooking and sized burgers. Set aside in the fridge for 15 minutes.
- Heat the grill to medium high heat and get out the burgers to rest while it heats up. Place each burger on the grill and cook for 5-6 minutes or until the juices appear on the top of the burger, as if it's sweating. Flip the burger and allow to cook for an additional 3-4 minutes without pressing on the burger or flipping again. The last minute or two add the cheese and keep the lid closed. Remove the burgers to a platter and tent with foil.
- Meanwhile, while the burgers are cooking, heat a skillet to medium high heat and drizzle in a little olive oil. Crack an egg very close to the pan and slowly open it so that the egg forms an even shape. see note Cook for 1-2 minutes and flip cooking for up to 1 minute more, keeping the yolk soft and remove to the top of your burger.
- Spread mayo and ketchup on your bottom bun and place the burger with the egg, cheese and egg on top. Add avocado if desired, top with bun lid and enjoy.
The fresher the egg the less it will spread when cracked.